Hey, friends! I’m so happy to be writing in this safe place and talking to y’all.
2022 has truly been a mixture of emotions to say the least. So much good and growth has taken place in my life. But to be 100% transparent, SO much learning stones have been thrown my way.
I came to a place this year where I truly had to sit with myself and ask myself:
What does showing humility truly entail?
What does it consist of?
What does it feel like?
What does it look like?
The definition of humility says:
Humility– a modest or low view of one’s own importance; humbleness.
Showing humility does not mean we should have low self esteem or think poorly of ourselves. Humility is knowing we are all humans and have setbacks. Humility is understanding we are all on a journey. Our journeys look different and sometimes they look familiar but none of us are better than the other.
For me, I’ve felt I’ve always known what being humble meant. I’ve always thought of myself as pretty humble.
However, it’s something about being in the position when you have to ask for help, you’ll realize it’s a true test of humility. Especially if you’re someone who doesn’t like to ask for help and is use to handling it all on your own.
But truth is, we all need help. No matter how wise, great, wealthy, or of a leader you are. We all need help. Often, life will put you in a situation where you must experience the importance and lesson of humility. Asking for help and realizing we all need assistance in some form of way.
For me, I’m so use to handling things on my own and taking care of everything. Until this season of my life, I’ve officially stepped into entrepreneurship and shifting careers, and I found myself needing help more and more. It didn’t feel good because I wanted to maintain my status of being on top. Truth is though, trying to maintain an image or status based around the perception of how people see you, will drive you crazy.
This season, God has been teaching me true humility by asking for help. What I’ve learned though, the people that really love you, don’t mind helping you or look at you less when you ask for help. 9/10, it’s yourself that’s being the hardest on yourself. God has had to humble me by showing me no matter what title I carry, job I’m performing, or income I’m bringing—He is the source; and I will forever need Him. God works through other people so I also will need help through others. I’ve had to humble myself and ask for help even though yes, I’m a business owner, teacher, and entrepreneur, I still need my community and support from others.
Showing humility is about stripping yourself from where you think you should be by now or who you think you should be and accepting your journey for what it is.
Showing humility is about accepting you won’t always be on top.
Showing humility is about going through challenging seasons and feeling all the emotions that come with it. Whether that season entails of being low, scared, broke, empty, heartbroken, or insecure. It’s about testifying that you too have been in low places and can stand in solidarity with those who also are or have been in dark seasons as well.
True humility is knowing what it feels like to need help and not turning a judging eye on someone else’s predicaments and journey.
Because as my grandmother use to say, “keep living, surely there will always be something”
We’ve all have and will face tribulations that feel absolutely terrifying and sometimes embarrassing. But there’s power in those seasons. They humble us. They even give us strength when we come out of it and reflect over all that we made it through.
So, friends, keep on living. Keep on showing love and Grace to others because as long as we all live, we all are going through something.
A quote from Andre DeShields has stuck with me and been replaying in my mind for days… he gives three pieces of advice:
” 1: Surround yourself with people whose eyes light up when they see you coming.
2: slowly is the fastest way to get to where you want to be.
3: the top of one mountain is the bottom of the next so keep climbing.”
Keep going, friends! Life is tough, but God is tougher!
JesusChristChangedMyLife because He humbles us to have grace for one another.
Until next time!